With a shocking frequency lately, my daughter's various requests have been met with no/later/in a minute and so on.
Dishes need to be washed, laundry folded, the baby fed...
I am making time for everything but her.
I've turned down board games, park trips and yes {regretfully}, even cuddles.
I admit, I find sitting on the floor playing trains or dolls a bit tedious but when did a clean sink become a higher priority than cuddles?
Undivided attention and affection are such a basic needs and surely have great impact on our children's lives. Yet how often do we find ourselves too "busy" or simply bored by the idea to spend time with our children.
I fear that one day, my "no" will be the last because she'll never ask me again, having been turned down so many times. Apologies then will be too little, too late.
The thought literally turns my stomach and aches my heart.
My children awe and inspire me. I have found joy in motherhood... it's where I belong.
It seems silly that I have to consciously choose to make this effort but I am committing to myself and to my babies to be fully present for them and take the time to truly meet their needs... to quit brushing them aside for another time.
So, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go have a tea party and snuggle my girl.
I struggle with this sometimes as well. It has to be a concious effort, but it is always worth it, to show our babes that they are loved. :)
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